Individual Decision Making using VBDM | Tristan Holme
VBDM for Individuals
Are you struggling to make your vision for the future a reality?
Do you have trouble saying “no” to new opportunities or decisions?
Do you feel stuck in a particular area of your life?
Values-Based Decision-Making (VBDM) helps you envision the future you want, clarify the values that can make that future a reality, filter decisions for their ability to add to your desired future, and help keep you accountable and track your progress.
If you’re looking to dive deep into understanding what you truly want in life, how to move towards it AND invest time into embodying your values in a way that will set you up for the future, this process is for you.
VBDM is about designing your life from the inside out. You’ll identify what truly matters to you and use that to make holistic decisions that feel aligned – not reactive, guilt-driven, or performative.
A full VBDM process with me encompasses 8 live calls, with exercises for you to complete in-between. At the end of it, you walk away with:
- A personalized set of values to guide your life
- A process to clarify how to determine what’s a yes, what’s a no, and why
- A system for checking in on your life’s progress
- An inventory of your life, and how to manage it better
- The ability to make holistic decisions with fewer unintended consequences
- Tools to set boundaries that actually stick
- Practice and guidance to embody your values and the process of filtering decisions
This offering could be a good fit if you can identify with any of the below.
- You’re unable to create a cohesive vision for the future
- You’re unsure of how/where to allocate resources and time
- You find it difficult to discern the value in big decisions
- You’re going through a transition - the ground is moving beneath your feet and you’re not sure how to centre yourself
- You find it challenging to say ‘no’ and set boundaries with others
- You’re coming out of a relationship with a ‘challenging personality’ and need to learn how to trust yourself and others again
- You want a romantic relationship and would like a tool for discerning who would make a good partner for you
- You’re considering a major life change but would like to learn a system for discernment
- You’re a solopreneur who really wants to live the dream of doing what you love, but you don’t have a framework to guide you
- You’re generally overwhelmed and have too much going on
- You feel stuck in a particular area of your life
- The world feels uncertain and scary, and you’re wondering how to ground your actions
- You feel out of integrity, but can’t put a finger on how you might come into integrity
In an age of infinite options, VBDM is also a highly effective tool for discerning what to say ‘yes’ to, and what to leave alone.
This was beautifully expressed by a recent Values-Based Decision-Making student.
“A few years ago we hosted an ayahuasca sitting and there was a woman from Poland here. The next day we were talking about our experience and she was so excited to share: ‘I got to experience hell! It was right here in my own life and it was having a thousand different appealing options put in front of me with no framework for how to make a decision.’
“I realised that’s what a lot of people experience every day and I’ve always wondered what that framework would be. How would you have a framework to decide among a thousand appealing options? This feels like it’s what that framework is, and having it available can transform the experience from hell to heaven.”
We are all familiar with the “thousand different appealing options”, because in our hyperconnected modern age, we have never had so many ideas, requests, opportunities and possibilities.
If you’re interested in making the switch from hell to heaven, or if you would like to claim real sovereignty in your life, please reach out through the Contact page.
If you don’t design your life, it will be designed for you.